4 Different Ways To View Failure

In a time like this, I believe the topic of failure needs to be addressed. In this article, I share 4 main ways to deal with failure. Instead of allowing failure to be your enemy make it your ally.

Tip (1): At least you know the outcome.

If you did not try in the first place your answer is an automatic “No”.

But the fact that you tried and failed you now know for sure the answer is a “No”. I think one of the worst regrets to have in life are “what if’s…”. For instance “what if I applied for the job and got it… what if I asked my manager for the pay rise and got it?”. Eliminate all “what if’s” by asking or doing what is necessary. If the answering is a “No”; good on you because at least you tried!

Tip (2): It builds character and gives you more wisdom

When I speak to successful people or people who are in senior leadership roles, something that captivates me is their wisdom. The way they see things, the pearls they share with me; and I have come to understand and realise there is a special type of learning/wisdom that comes from failure. If one allows it to, failure can build character in a person and they can share the valuable learnings from their failures to help someone else avoid them.

Tip (3): It helps you assess your goals and truly decide if this is something that interests you

How many times have you decided to try something new? But, because you failure at it you realised: “okay this is not my skillset”; consequently you decide to stop wasting your time in any activity that is not benefitting you.

Failure has valuable insights such as it enables us to really scrutinise our intentions and objectives, and at times we fail at things simply because it is not our skillset. And that is okay! But at least you learnt from the experience.

Tip (4): Let it motivate you

I was listening to an interview this week from a successful woman and she mentioned how she dropped out of school and felt as though she had let her family down. But instead of sitting in her emotions, she decided to allow this failure to motivate her to be successful, and she is currently thriving in her career.

I would to end the article with thought-provoking quotes on failure:

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” – Michael Jordan

“Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail” – Confucious

“If you learn from defeat, you haven’t really lost” – Zig Ziglar

“The one who falls and gets up is stronger than the one who never tried. Do not fear failure but rather fear not trying” – Paulo Coelho

Have you ever failed before? What did you learn from it?

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